bastien-fils said: "Pointing out that men are privileged in no way denies that bad things happen to men"
No, but no one ever uses it to say "oh, congratulations" or "you're doing well", they use it to try to invalidate the man's point or to say "you're only *blank* because you're a man".
And not every man even has "male privilege". I've certainly experienced none of it. In fact, quite the opposite. Someone can say that men *can* be hurt by it, but all they ever mean is that women *are* hurt by it. And that's not a fair burden to place on an entire group of people, especially when they have no control over its existence other than to not perpetrate in it themselves (and even non-males perpitrate it). Besides, there's also woman privilege, black privilege, gay privilege...hell, even baby privilege.
Every one has some privilege--regardless of their lack of others--often in the form of an allowance, that's culturally motivated. But if someone were to say, "oh, that's just because you're a woman/black/gay", it would be considered offensive. They're all gross generalizations that are only ever used to invalidate a person or their point. Or more passive-aggressively, to deny that someone is capable of feeling sympathy just because they are not able to feel empathy.
Are the majority of high paying jobs and top positions held by men? Yes. But to cast a net to discredit an entire group of people based on the actions of some isn't fair. Some women enjoy lots of sex and some enjoy it carelessly. Some people are chubby or "overweight" through no actions of their own and some do nothing but eat junk food and watch tv. But calling all women who like sex "sluts" is wrong, and calling all chubby or "overweight" people "lazy and unhealthy" is wrong. So why would it be ok to put disparage all men--regardless of one's actual personal experience and their lack of control over the actions of others--with a generalization meant solely to detract from their validity?
I shouldn't have to walk around apologizing for being a man, and yet whenever my gender or sexuality has been a subject, that's all that's been expected of me. Some privilege.
Anyway. All I'm saying is that, the way it's used, it's no less of a loaded phrase than slut, fat, etc.
This is going to have to be one of those things where we disagree, boss.